tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704084191481886624.post8077774390411513483..comments2023-10-04T11:04:44.870-04:00Comments on several drafts & a loving Editor: SOLC 2: I'm Sorry, You're SorryChandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13559103853226462757noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704084191481886624.post-20225787476302435102013-03-04T23:18:21.134-05:002013-03-04T23:18:21.134-05:00I keep meaning to delve into Yom Kippur and take p...I keep meaning to delve into Yom Kippur and take part in some way (similar to my seder-ing). Confession: I hadn't heard of the Days of Awe at all. I love the idea--a place marked on the very calendar (because how else do we remember) to seek out across broken ties.Chandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13559103853226462757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704084191481886624.post-9192272266869956172013-03-04T23:16:14.552-05:002013-03-04T23:16:14.552-05:00Obviously my post didn't cover the breadth of ...Obviously my post didn't cover the breadth of the topic--and it's such a complicated thing. I think sometimes I find myself expecting/waiting for an apology from someone which then keeps me from moving on. I, too, have baggage from my father, but had I waited for an apology to deal with it, I would have remained broken with, now that he's passed, no hope of healing. Forgiveness can't be pending someone's apology--we'll wait lifetimes for that, lifetimes we don't have to waste.Chandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13559103853226462757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704084191481886624.post-45519311070039840102013-03-02T22:34:28.518-05:002013-03-02T22:34:28.518-05:00Your post made me think about the Days of Awe, whi...Your post made me think about the Days of Awe, which come in the fall. Yom Kippur is the Day of Atonement. It's where we reconcile with those we have wronged. We try to make amends. We may go astray. We may hurt others on purpose or inadvertently. Regardless, we make amends -- again and again and again.Stacey Shubitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17903206728640184043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704084191481886624.post-8426289049895906942013-03-02T22:23:03.133-05:002013-03-02T22:23:03.133-05:00Geez, Chandra. I can't even pronounce "r...Geez, Chandra. I can't even pronounce "retributive," lol! Great post. Great, great post. I was catching up on "Smash" this evening, and one of the characters was talking about how they kept apologizing and apologizing for something and it didn't make any difference. And the other character said, "Maybe you're apologizing for the wrong thing. Maybe you don't just need to apologize for what you did, you also need to apologize for WHY you did it." I haven't fully processed why this feels profound to me. Maybe if my dad, who has hurt me so much with so many of his actions didn't just say, "Sorry I wasn't there for you"(which he has several times). But also apologized for and talked more about why, I'd be able to feel like he really got it and could be trusted again...?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com